How did it happen?

  Now married 10 years, all I have to show for my relationship is hours to mins fought for. What was the competition you may wonder...Well, it was a game called COD. Alive game played with multipole players all over the world, is it the coolest game, O I bet but is worth my family? that a negative! Did it cost me my family... Yes, that's a positive. And so how did this happen? Why would my husband allow it to happen? What did I do to stop it from happening and was I to late? These are the question I will try to answer. 

   Frist is first...How did this happen? One day my husband was looking for a game to play to occupy his time. He came across This live one that offered many different activities to engage in. We both thought it was going to be fun, he even begged me to play with him, but due to the violence of the game I declined but told him he could go ahead. Now that I look back, I can see clearly, had I stopped it we would still be a family. At the same time in the same breath, I am happy this happened. I can say I am happy he isn't with me anymore. I wish it happened faster,

 

 How he let it happen? as time went on and he became more and more infatuated with the game, spending all kinds of money on it, I knew I had to step in somehow. But I did not want him feeling any type of resentment against me for intervening. At this point he was completely absorbed by the game and played every day all day he loved the game more then he loved talking to me. I wanted him to make the choose on his own. I thought if I protested int he slightest he would make the right chose. I was wrong, he saw what was happing slowly and his excuses was that the game relived his stress, when I would ask him what stress he would always say I didn't understand. 

 

  What did I do to stop it from happing and was I to late...? I saw what was going on and how bad it was getting, and I knew I had to do something to him see to make him change...He kept on going knowing full well the affects it was having on his family, even though I let him choose I also made my concerns known to him in the most loving of ways, emphasizing my love and respect for him. see some of my new life lesions include learning that you cannot change a man, even if you see his full potential and you know what his attributes are. If he's not reaching to attain them remove him from your life, he's not changing for you, he's not changes for him, and you will not convince him any one thing would be worth it if he cannot find his worth on his own. Move out of his way and off his lifer path. Let that boy alone. In answer to the question at hand, no there was nothing in extenuating circumstance to make him stop and the reason would later become oh so Chrystal clear. The answer fell into my lap.

  

   The last question was it worth the callops of my family? After my mother died in January in 2023, He was of no comfort to me. My mother was my companion. She was my everything. I never wanted any friends, nor did I need them with her around. I was her caretaker, and she was my everything. So, when she did past, I found myself lost for a time, even now I feel the loss of her from time to time. I would seek soles in my husband I would find myself laying in his arms as he played his game, and that would have been his only comfort for me. Although he would promise just one more game and he would hold me, it was always just one more game. I started to hate the game and resent him for enjoying it as well as what it was taking from me. I would get angry if he played it while the children were still awake or if it was dinner time, it was always the primes of one more game honey...

 

  The side effects, from being humiliated on a consistent basis. I had to work hard to make ends meat, while he sat on the sofa and played his game. If the children, we have together bothered him and messed up his score he would become irate and argue with us all. His bad temper would be the intolerance of my mental health, and it would bring me to my breaking point many times over. To give an example once I recall once as I was at the office busting my tookcus, he was supposed to make a late payment on our truck that was in my name. He is a prideful man and so took his time in making it. I received a phone call while at the office informing me that my truck had been repossessed! I called him and he said he was there on the couch and didn't hear, I asked him what on earth he was doing, and he said he was playing his game. That day I lost what little respect I had for him. I later found out why he was so hooked.